Celebrating

So many emotions going through me tonight. Two more days and our precious baby will be ours. And there are many, many reasons why I am thankful. Some reasons may be ones that no one has ever considered...

1. He will be OURS - our last name, his birth certificate says our name
2. No social worker visits each month
3. If he is sick, we can take him to the doctor without calling anyone to tell them what was said.
4. No one can tell us how things will be working with our child, he will be in our family and we will always know what is going on.
5. He will never, ever leave our house without one of us - we won't have to hand him over to social workers for visits.
6. When I call the doctor, both my boys will have the same last name.
7. We GOT to choose his name - that is a big deal :)
8. We can give him our belief system without anyone regulating if and where he goes to church.
9. If we need things for him, we depend on no government systems, we are free to take care of him ourselves.
10. We are free to cut his hair (yes, really.)
11. If he is sick, and needs to sleep in our room for one night, it is perfectly legal to choose to do that because he is our son.
12. I no longer have to carry around a care and custody letter giving me permission to even have him in my car let alone get him treated for things
13. I can choose if he needs mental health services and no one even will suggest them (and he doesn't)


You may think these are silly things, but in my world, they are things to celebrate. Yes, we become even more ultimately responsible for our child with no one there for back up, but that is what parents are, responsible for their kids. Totally and completely. They don't have to worry about losing their permission slip as it were. They just care for the child. Being a foster parent, this really is a big, big deal. People have asked why we were pushing so hard to adopt before Christmas. Well, a multitude of reasons. My biggest being peace of mine. He is OURS. Really and truly ALL OURS. That is a big load off of my mind. I don't have to worry if he gets sick again, I can just take care of him. Also, can anyone really disagree that a baby forever is not a precious, wonderful, blessed Christmas gift? Who wouldn't want that? It does mean we will celebrate his adoption close to Christmas every year, but that is totally ok by me.

Answering to people for your children gets a bit old. Just being honest. I wanted my blog to show our journey. This is part of the journey. Having your child be only your child is reason to smile. For real! I'm so thankful for my baby boy. I love him beyond measure. And introducing him to the world as our child with our last name is going to be amazing!