Monday, November 28, 2011

Six Months!

Yesterday, we have had our precious baby boy for six months. Amazing how time flies! He has done so well, adjusted well, fit in well, just all around done really well - even through a pretty huge illness for a little guy. God has definitely blessed us so much. He definitely orders our steps and brings us the children that fit us so well that we could never have done better if we chose them ourselves - in fact, we probably would have done far worse.

This precious baby boy has brought so much joy into our lives. He is a happy baby. He walked at 11 months old. He still isn't talking much yet, but I think big brother does most of the talking for him so he feels no need. His favorite game is to kick him little legs right out in front of him and land on his bottom. It is a crazy sight to see. But he does it every where we go. Apparently even church nursery as it was commented upon yesterday :).

He has slept in many different beds as we have gotten him all adjusted, and he does absolutely fine. He doesn't resist change at all, he appears to embrace it. He has bonded with Austin well and they really do seem to get along. He loves being outside. And he eats really well too. So all around he is fitting into our family well and has adjusted to a new environment with ease.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Motivation

This week has brought a lot of changes into our lives. All change comes with joy and sorrow. And we have seen both this week. Any time we add a child to our home, there is fear for the future. What happens next? Are our hearts going to break at the end of this journey? But I read a quote this week that summed up how I feel about why we do what we do.
"Love always involves fear. There are no guarantees about tomorrow for any of us. But in the meantime, while we're waiting for answers... while we're wondering what's at the end of this road - I want to walk it with you" No matter what the journey brings, we love our kids and true love always involves fear but is always worth the risk involved.

But we also do it to invest in our kids whether for a day, a week, a month, a year. "You never touch just one heart. Because once someone is loved like that, they'll go on to touch countless hearts. And with God the chain reaction never ends." Wow. Talk about touching a nerve. I pray that if we can give a few days or a few weeks of love, and peace, and safety that it will remain in our children's hearts forever, no matter where they end up. I pray that each child that comes into our home knows that they are absolutely loved. Of course, our desire is that they stay forever, but if they don't, this is why we do what we do. To touch one heart and one life. To hope that in Eternity we can see the faces of those who have been touched in turn by the one that we were granted a moment to love.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

A Family of Five for a Time

For the first time in my life, I am afraid that I am going to cry the minute I see a child. Just totally break down. Not something I am prone to do. But it is sitting on the surface today. Now that you are intrigued... We are again a family of five. And this child is special - one we have prayed for over and over time and again for many, many months. Welcome to our home baby girl. May we be a source of peace and joy and comfort and blessing to you. May you always know love. May you see the joy of Jesus and learn to know Him. May we be a family to you no matter where you roam. We love you already. And we are so glad you are home!

Yes, this was not in OUR plans, but it was in God's plans. Sometimes His timing is not ours. But this is giving us a time to be totally dependent on Him. Having 3 kids 3 and under is a bit of a challenge, for sure. But I know that God equips those He calls. So off we go on another remarkable journey.

Thank you for praying for us. Many specific things - for the transition for ALL the kiddos, mine included - it's a big change. Love and patience to be obviously displayed for my husband and I as parents. Good health for all of us. Good sleep for all of us. Calmness in the midst of change and extra duties. Ability to find time for me to get my "day job" done and my house chores and laundry, ect.

Crazy times for sure! This Thanksgiving we have three little blessings to be thankful for!

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Praying for Friends

Today, I found out that someone that I am friends with lost her baby at full term. It was her first baby. And my heart is broken for she and her husband. She was so adorable pregnant and so excited to be a mommy. She had even started a group on Facebook for Christian moms to discuss child-raising issues. Life if precious, and sometimes altogether too short. I can't imagine what this family is going through. I have prayed for them constantly today. Please join me in praying for them as they adjust to life without their baby.

Loss is hard no matter how you go through it. I know several friends who have lost children whether through miscarriages or very early death in childhood. And others, like me who haven't experienced pregnancy, but have lost children in adoption or foster issues. Loss hurts, for a long time. And your life is changed through the short time with that child whether they were born or not.

I have chosen to hug my kids a bit tighter today. And to be thankful for them - no matter how difficult the days may be with attitudes, teething, ect. Even those trial times are times to be thankful for because my children are here. And they are living and healthy. And I am thankful for that.

God uses things in our lives to put perspective to what we are going through. He has used my friends' loss to do that for me. Sometimes the mundane of life gets to me - dealing with Austin's new found independence and argumentativeness, the fact that he won't go potty in the toilet, the baby getting teeth and being fussy. And sometimes I forget to be thankful. All of these things are so not important in the grand scheme of life. They are just normal parts of parenting. Parts that today I am thankful for because again, it means my children are alive and well.I forget to look at the precious things in life - the baby's constant happy giggles (sans the teething), Austin's willingness to be helpful and sweet, his desire to learn and know more about Jesus, his songs that he sings. I am thankful for the reminder even as I pray for these precious parents who no longer have a baby to bring home from the hospital. May I never forget to be thankful for the gifts God has given me

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Always Thankful

I know I have said this before, but I just feel so blessed watching my boys - all 3 of them (Daddy included) playing together. They are playing with a beach ball, and Austin is Tigger, Daddy is Pooh, and baby is Piglet (or Piglick - as Austin calls him). They all get to giggling so much and enjoy themselves just making up games. That is a happy thing to me.

It's looking at this thing that we have made called a family - maybe a non-traditional family, but a family none-the-less. I see special little boys who have blessed me more than anything in this world.

It's coming up on Thanksgiving and I definitely feel the need to express thankfulness for my precious boys. God has brought them to us in unique ways out of special circumstances. We met our adoption counselor on Saturday for our baby. So I feel like finally we are moving in a good direction - an end game to the foster process. For that I am also thankful!

This second adoption has been a LONG process for us - 7 months to get our home study completed and we are already at 6 months trying to get the foster care part done and looking at another at least 2 months before we go to court for our actual adoption.

This isn't for the faint of heart, yet it is such a blessing to me to allow me to be the one thing I desired most - a mommy. I know that there are so many people - even good friends of mine desiring mommyhood whether it is the first or second times. But being a mommy is a thing of beauty, a thing to rejoice in, a thing to never take for granted.

My boys make me smile. They giggle a lot and in turn make me laugh, they bring joy no matter the circumstance, they light up my life (cheesy maybe but true). My life is much more full today than it was at this time 3 years ago prior to having children. I am blessed, having learned a lot, gone through a lot, and come away a richer woman because of it all. Thanksgiving is a time to remember those things we are thankful for. Since my blog is mostly dedicated to adoption, that is what I am thankful for. I am thankful for a chance to have my own children, to give beautiful children a home, to be able to teach Jesus to my children who may not have heard of Him, to love and be loved in return. These are precious gifts and things I never want to take for granted.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Gotcha Day fell on Orphan Sunday

Today was/is a special day for us for two reasons - the first, it is Austin's Gotcha Day. Today, 2 years ago, he came home to live forever. We went from a couple to a family. And listening to him giggle on the way home from church just reminded me how special he is to us, and what absolute joy he has brought into our lives. God brought us just the right child to fit into our family. And it brings me such happiness to say that he is my son - forever.

The other special thing is that today is Orphan Sunday. And we were able to celebrate that at our church. I am thankful for all of the people who have or are adopting in our church. And I am thankful for a church that actively supports adoption, foster care, international adoption, and orphan care throughout our state, our nation, and our world.

I got a bit teary this morning to see my sons on the adoption presentation. To see the date that Austin became ours legally - to see our baby's name with - "waiting to be adopted into his forever family" in writing. It is special. Children are special - no matter if they are adopted or biological children. I am just thankful for a day to remind me to thank God for my small role in my children's lives. I am reminded to pray over them for their futures, how they will serve God in their older years. I am reminded to never forget to thank God for the miraculous way He brought these boys into our family. And honestly, days like this make me want to take in more kids... although I think I'll still wait just a bit :)

I'm thankful for all of the people who support us through our journey. It isn't over yet for baby number two. But we are getting there. I am thankful for people who pray for us, who love us, who encourage us. I am thankful for so many friends who have adopted, or are working through the process. I am glad for the bond that it brings. And I hope that we can all support each other.

Austin came home on this day exactly 2 years ago. His name wasn't what it is now, it was something else. And by God's grace - now his last name is forever ours. He is in his forever home! I will enjoy this day I am sure for years to come remembering that incredibly special day that made our lives so much richer. Austin - Mommy and Daddy love you more than words can say. You are important (a phrase he has picked up on lately). You are important because God chose you especially for us. He chose you to grow our family to be the wonderful little boy that you are that fills our lives with such joy and amazement and enjoyment at watching you learn and grow. Mommy and Daddy pray for you to become a real man of God - one who changes lives by loving them through Jesus. May you always know that you are loved.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Stepping Stones

On Friday (Nov 4), we got wonderful new about our precious baby boy. He has been staffed to adoptions which means that with more fingerprints (like the 90th time LOL), and some updates to our home study we should be able to be matched with a lawyer and finally go to court to adopt our baby and make his last name the same thing as ours!

Someone posted something so special to me on my facebook when I made this announcement. He said that our baby already had our last name - we were just waiting for the paperwork to catch up.

It gives me so much peace knowing we have made it this far in the process. Almost five months of waiting are finally working out for us to become a legal family of four. (We are totally a family of four now. And I hate it when people ask me after an adoption how it feels to be a mommy. I am a mommy now - we just need the legalities over to make all of our kids have our last name. Having a foster child is as much parenting as anything else. Ok, off my soap box.)

On the Austin front... Tomorrow is the day that he came home for good to live. This time two years ago, it was Daniel's and my last night just as a couple without a baby. And it was a LONG night of waiting, I will tell you that much. We were so excited to be bringing our very special, just turned 1 year old baby boy home.

He did so very well with the transition to our home. He blended into our family as if he had been here forever. God gave us a very special gift in Austin - in both our boys actually, but I was on the Austin topic :)

Tomorrow is Orphan Sunday at our church. I have said several times that I am thankful for a church that celebrates adoption. And it is so much more special that tomorrow is also the anniversary of the day Austin came home to live for good - his "Gotcha Day."

I met a new friend today who is trying to adopt. It is so neat how God brings people together who are at the same stages in life. We can always help each other, just by listening, or sharing advice from experiences, or even just listening to frustrations of the journey.

My boys are my life. I love them. And I am so very thankful for all of the good things God has done in our adoption journey. We aren't done yet. But we are a whole lot closer and a whole lot safer than we were a few months ago.

I look forward to what God has for us in our adoption future!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Austin Turns Three

Today is a special day celebrating Austin. He turned three today. This birthday has been a lot of fun - the first one he really cares about. Two wasn't such a big deal, but he has been looking forward to turning three for months - literally. And everyone had a birthday before him it seemed, baby, mommy, and daddy. Now, it is his turn.

It seems it has been a Lightening McQueen birthday. Almost everything he got had a Lightening theme. And now, we are sitting watching Cars 2 that just came out yesterday (thanks to Redbox for a cheap fun thing to do).

My dad came down to be with us for this birthday. So this morning, Austin opened presents my grandma has sent and then we took the boys to the park. Dad and I made Austin a Mickey Mouse cake. Honestly, it turned out looking like a scary Halloween bear, but we attempted it. And I convinced Austin it was Mickey :). So glad I didn't try to make a Lightening cake though. Mickey was bad enough LOL.

Daddy came home, and we let Austin open more presents from us and my parents. Then we took Austin to dinner at Fazoli's. His choice - baked spaghetti (he picked the restaurant too). He has played with his toys, eaten his cake and is winding down watching his movie. (He hasn't seen what MaMa and PaPa sent, but he is going to love it!)

He keeps telling us Happy Birthday. And we have to remind him that HE is the birthday boy. He told me he wasn't a birthday boy because he would turn back to two again soon. Two is over, three is here. I am excited for new adventures. He is learning, growing and changing so much.

And there are many more special days to come. I will post more probably Saturday or Sunday. But Austin's Gotcha Day is November 6. That is the day he came home to live forever exactly two years ago.

God has blessed us with an amazingly special little boy. He has been in our home for almost exactly two years. I wish I could say it had been all three years. But what a life-changing, wonderful little person entered our lives two years ago. I just couldn't have asked God for a better fit with our family. Even if your family doesn't grow the way you think it will - it surely does grow in the PERFECT manner, better than what you could have dreamed about!

Austin Elijah Kreitler - You are a precious gift from God. Mommy and Daddy love you beyond measure. We are so thankful that you are our precious son. You have changed our lives completely. We smile more than ever, we tear up at the precious things you do and say, we love harder, hug more, laugh often. And I can't even imagine life without you. May you have many, many more birthdays. And know that Mommy and Daddy are SO blessed to have you as our son. We are so thankful to God for bringing the perfect, special little boy to us at just the right time. Happy Birthday my son. Grow in knowledge of God, may this even be the year you come to know Christ as your personal Savior. You are such a smart little boy already with deep thoughts of God. I am so excited to watch you grow and change and learn this year. I hope that I live up to your expectations for a Mommy knowing that I will fail you at times, but that I want what is absolutely best for you before God. I love you son!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

November Reflections

I'm spending time being nostalgic today. This is my last day with Austin as a two year old. Tomorrow he turns three. Two years ago at this time, we were planning to head to Austin's foster parents home for his first birthday. And we were anticipating bringing him home for good. That was the hardest week of my life. We went for his birthday party, and had to leave him. Then the next day or so we brought him home for an overnight visit and had to give him back. He crawled as fast as his little legs would carry him when we left... Thankfully, just four days after Austin turned 1, we brought him home for good. November 6, 2009, Austin came to live in the Kreitler home and never will leave again - adopted March 31, 2010.

November is a month dedicated to celebrating adoption. I am so thankful that we can promote adoption in this way. My life has forever been changed by my two little blessings from God. Our baby came home on March 27, 2011. Thankfully, on October 24, 2011, he became available for adoption. And now we are just waiting so that he can also have an adoption date changing his last name to match ours and give him the rights, responsibilities and privileges of anyone who may have been born into our household.

Austin is so very excited about this birthday, which makes me so very excited about it. And as always, I thank God that he is here for this birthday. We aren't visiting, and he is ours. I can plan his birthday as our child! These are small things but so big in my world :)

I do get a bit sad to think I'm not sure what time he was born or how big he was. I always will be sad about that. However, we have been so blessed to have had him in our home for two wonderful years. Adoption is something that changes your life in such a huge way. And I am so glad that we have seen such an amazing picture of how God adopted us. We have such a wonderful image to show to our sons - about God's love and our love!

It is also fitting that as our first Sunday back to church as a family is Orphan Sunday this coming Sunday. I'm so thankful we have a church that celebrates adoption. Certainly not everyone is called to adopt. But there are so many things that can be done to help the local or even international agencies.

November and now May will forever remind me how good God has been to us. Those months brought us our precious boys. And I am forever grateful!